Kiss! shhhhhhhh!

As I watched this movie the other day, I started to wonder if you should tell or not. Im all for telling if you have cheated on your significant other by having sex with another person. Here is where the dilemma comes in for me. If you were to kiss another person should you tell or not? A kiss can sometimes be more intimate than sex but a kiss is easier to do than to go through the process of taking off clothes and exchanging sex faces. If you tell, your significant other may never trust you again. You may have been caught up in the moment and you realized, this is not what I want and it will never happen again. Sometimes you have to experience things to know if they are really for you or not. Do you tell them because you dont want any secrets and you want them to be able to trust that you will not lie to them? Maybe you want to be totally honest to ensure that that kiss reaffirmed your feelings for them. Would you take a chance on losing that person forever or spare what you believe to be insignificant in your feelings toward your significant other?

In Love?

How do you really know if your in love with another person? People use this term a lot. "im so in love him/her" In the movies you see the couple running towards each other in the end. Is that what its like? Do you have to love someone first before you fall in love or is love just the aftermath of the high that you have just been on?

When is the right TIME?!

Most women have a rule about the "right time" to have sex with the person their dating. I'm not that big on those rules. To me its almost like saying, "Hun, we can only have sex on Tuesdays and Thursdays." Emotional freedom is most important. I know what some may be thinking, "what if he or she leaves afterwards?" Well I say this, if its good, then they will be wanting to meet your parents by breakfast time. So if that guy or girl up and left you after that first time, then it might not have been that good. I'm not saying that you should have sex on the first night because there is no point in waiting. I'm merely saying that "good good" will keep them coming back. Its alright to get to know people by all means but do not put a time limit on getting to know someone. I know there are popular books that state you should have all of these rules before you do this or do that and blah blah blah. The real deal is, its not that you have changed the rules once you are dating someone new, its the fact that you have changed the people you date all together. The next person you date and feel like you are physically ready to make that next step, make sure that that person is someone that you can look back and say "I'm alright with having sex with him/her". Every person that you have sex with may not be your husband/wife. That's sometimes the ebbs and flow of life. But, you also need to prepare yourself for those times that it does not work out. You need to be comfortable adding that person to your total number of sexual partners. In conclusion, there is no generic right time. Its only what you feel comfortable with. Just understand that no body can feel your comfort like you can.